“She said it is everyone's responsibility to reach back[motioning] to the girl behind you and pull her up. I think that is a big part of who we are as women; you have to be able to reach back and pull forward. As I have been doing this campaign and meeting people- not just women-you realize how many people are waiting for you to reach back and help them. I am very proud to be on her team and to be having her as a mentor to me, win or lose." On her campaign partner
A Worldly Woman: Executive Director at the United Nations Association New York Chapter and Mother of Hungarian Roots
“I was the man of the family at age 15. I became so independent that it is hard to me to give up independence now."
“Since I was an only child, I did feel a heavy burden. It was not a burden but a thought: here is my mom, what is going to happen to her if she gets ill. What will I do? I am trying to live my own life. I can sense that feeling from my daughter now because of this traditional thing. She saw me taking care of my mother-in-law. I know she must have thought of this and what will happen to us when she is getting her career started and I am in my 70s or 80s. It is this thing in the back of your head, a cultural thing...." On Hungarian culture and caring for elderly parents
“He is(husband) is from Sierra Leone, Africa. I felt (whether it was a storybook thing) you fell in love and got married and lived happily after. This was an idea that was ingrained in my myself and I fell in love with this person and we decided get married. I didn't care what the world thought, what my mother thought, what his parents thought, what my friends thought. I was getting married and I was getting married for the right reason. I was not getting married because he was this fabulous caretaker--he didn't have a dime. I was getting married because we were madly in love. I felt at the time and I still do, that it is something that binds people together and I wanted that very much. I did want I wanted to do and I am glad I did. We have been married 33 years and it has been a wonderful journey."
“I wanted to be with my children, this little person I brought into the world at age thirty seven. It's a hell of a long time to wait to have a baby. So I thought, that's it...I could have gone back to work I suppose. It would have been an easier thing to do but I didn't want that. I had one of the best jobs. It was fabulous and my boss was wonderful. He also concurred and he said he understood because his wife was at home too." On leaving work temporarily when Ann had her first child
“Ask for what you want and not just be accepting of it[the way things are] meaning[your] title,[your] salary. I was privy to an incident in my former job where one of the guys who did not get his raise and was called into a conference room...he walked out and slammed the door. He got his raise because they didn't want to lose the guy. He was not going to take it and if I had done that, I think I would have been fired. Women could learn to say things in the right way- certainly not in an offensive way- but say they could say what they need to say and not worry about it so much, not go around thinking they will offend somebody and thinking about it for days before a job interview. Say what you need to say and I think you get a lot more respect that way." On advice to her younger self
I had the privilege of interviewing over twenty women to learn about the vibrant and diverse stories of ordinary women living their lives. In honor of Women’s History Month for 2019, I am sharing their stories.*
Each woman was asked the same six questions:
What is your role as a woman?
Who has shaped this role for you; what influence has your family, culture, and society had in shaping this role for you?
How much of your role is shaped by you and how do you choose to live as a woman?
Do you fulfill your role a woman, or not?
What opportunities did your mother have that your grandmother did not and what opportunities do you have that your mother did not?
How is the woman you are now different from the woman you were, and what would you say to her?
Each woman is so different from the next and yet, perhaps you will hear your own voice in theirs from time to time.
*Note that the audio files are completely unedited and you will truly be receiving an authentic experience, with the occasional awkward interruptions of clanging restaurant plates, a next-door-neighbor’s construction work, and silence while we research the quote an interviewee wanted to add! These unedited charms are as organic as their stories. Some of these women are family friends, good friends of mine, professional acquaintances or strangers I met spontaneously in a baseball stadium. We met for interviews in family rooms in private homes, public libraries, gazebos, and restaurants or cafes. Edited written transcripts will be released at a later date.
Actress Extraordinaire, Spiritual Millennial, and Family Friend with a Great Big Heart
“When I make people laugh or I am doing a big, crazy scene I don't feel attractive. It feels good in my heart but I don't feel like Marilyn Monroe and when I try to be something sexy, I don't feel funny. It's trying to find me and the reality of myself.” Erica Wiederlight
“In the acting business, my friends have played parts 'the slut, hot neighbor, the whore' and these are legitimate shows, and their call is a whore...it is giving no one worth. They are saying you are so ugly so you will be this frumpy, weird thing or you are attractive so we will sexualize you and you have no mind...I am trying to take personal responsibility; here I am, right here and right now, here's Erica. I am not a this, a that, I am me." Erica Wiederlight
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Happy International Women's Day!
I feel privileged to be a woman despite the many challenges that women face around the globe.
The plight of women is real but I am learning that every challenge is an opportunity for growth. Women face the challenges of sex trafficking, domestic violence, sexual harassment, workplace discrimination, and limitations on reproductive rights, just to name a few. While there is still much room for improvement for many of the world's women, we must not forget that women and men have grown over time in the reach for gender equality. Sometimes in our noble ambition to look towards the future it is all too easy to disregard the past. We focus on how far we have to go(and we should) and stop appreciating the rights that we do have now that many women fought tirelessly to grant us.
Perhaps it is easy for me to say this because I am an American woman in the Millennial generation but that is precisely why I am saying what I am. I did not have to fight for my right to vote, I was never denied employment because I had children, or was told my only value and true identity was living in the shadow of a man.
I am speaking to the younger generations when I invite women to have gratitude and count our blessings. But perhaps the riskier choice is contentment and settling. The danger of focusing too much on what has been already won is abandoning the future victories that we have yet to win. American women today are still raped, abused, harassed, and discriminated against. Gratitude isn't enough; we need attitude. Women--and men for that matter-- need to get mad, offended, and saddened by the atrocities that women face, not just in this country, but around the world.
This is why gratitude must be matched with the force of fierce ambition and commitment. One woman is a force all of her own, and she can use that force to pay it forward and follow in the footsteps of her valiant sisters who came before her. I urge young women to find gratitude for the past and use their attitude to shape the future of the world's women.
Millennials, it's our turn to take the torch! My motto for Women's History Month 2016: gratitude and attitude!
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What a very special time my students of Women in Contemporary Society and I had with Durga Tree International on our service project for Women's History Month.
I approached Durga Tree International, a small yet budding non-profit in Ramsey, NJ with an idea to make homemade cards for the survivors of human trafficking they directly assist in shelters throughout the world. The CEO, Beth Tiger, and Business Development Director, Kendra DeBree visited our classroom to provide an educational presentation on trafficking to seventy-two students.
To make use of the information they received in their presentation, students moved their awareness into action by creating supportive, uplifting cards to child survivors of trafficking in Guatemala. In addition to providing support and love, these cards will even provide English practice for the children who are enrolled in shelter's school. Ms. Tiger will personally hand-deliver our cards this month to the shelter in Guatemala when she leads a small community team on their annual immersion trip!
Consider supporting Durga Tree International in their mission to fundraise for survivor shelters around the world:
Happy Women's History Month!
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Hello Class and Happy International Women's Day,
This day matters. Every day matters because every day can be a day where you contribute to social justice.
I celebrated International Women's Day at the United Nations Headquarters in New York City with Former Secretary of State and First Lady, Mrs. Hillary Clinton, the UN Secretary General, Ban Ki-moon, and UN Women Executive Director, Ms. Phumzile Mlambo-Ngcuka, to name a few.
Each had poignant words in observance of this special day and it is inarguable that every person gathered in that room was there for one reason--to show support for equality of the sexes, but more importantly, to ardently and ploddingly continue the pursuit of global gender equality. Most would be in agreement that it is time to quicken and intensify our efforts, and as Ms. Mlambo-Ngcuka proclaims, "The 21st century offers an opportunity for a big leap forward-not just baby steps."
You don't need to be the next Hilary Clinton or UN Women Executive Director to do something about it. You don't need to travel to Africa, Peru, or Yemen to advocate for gender rights. You can do it right here--in your town, your state, your country, your school, and even from your computer.
Sign digital campaigns, and follow social equality organizations and leaders on Twitter and Facebook. You will have a whole world of information available to you and will learn things that you would not have known if it wasn't for social media. Do something empowering with your cellphones, with your social media accounts--with your life. No one person can be responsible for a task that as a global community we need to address but imagine what change can come when driven by a unified force of many.
And through it all, remember to stay positive and believe in the power of possibility. Getting angry doesn't do much besides keep you angry, and keep you from, well, keeping on. The only tried and true emotions that translate well into action and belong in the fight for gender equality are passion, belief, and perseverance.
This International Women's Day, I invite you to share a positive intention you have for the lives of women, men, boys, and girls. Respond to this message, tweet, post, share, tell, and most importantly, do. Your responses will strengthen your own voice and echo the voices of many, offering inspiration and validation that you do not stand alone.
Yesterday I was in a room with some important people; but I share the room with important people every time I get to teach you...
Here's to working towards our goal of gender equality where the strength of our voices matches the boldness of our actions.
Happy International Women's Day,
By Danielle Craig.
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Gender inequality is the world's most wide-spread and destructive inequality, now top priority on the agenda of the world’s greatest humanitarian organization, the United Nations. With the ongoing surge of communication technology gaining in force, young and old generations alike are communicating on a digital circuit of social media networks, blogs, and cellphone applications from one ocean to the next.
Beatrice Frey, Social Media Manager of UN Women, believes while education is the true key to gender equality and freedom, that social media can be a promising tool to empower women and girls.
This is a threatening yet exciting time – on the brink of sweeping global change – where injustice and human rights are now a world priority. Let’s be clear on one specific point; offline activism, that is, grassroots organizing and groundwork, is as important as it has ever been, and nothing can ever replace face-to- face interaction. Frey makes the distinction between offline and online activism but notes that they are both useful and necessary for gender equality and social change. “ I believe social media can be a great additional channel for activism if linked to other channels of offline activism,” she states. “Social media should never be the only communicative tool but one of several for outreach and communication which depends on the target audience and goal.”
After all, social media is not now beneficial to people who live in a region that does not have computers or the Internet. Frey comments that the digital divide is still present and limits global connectivity in certain parts of the world. Sometimes the most effective protocol is community radio, flyers, TV, or even cellphones that can send emergency alerts and provide hotlines. Though, if initiatives were taken to digitally connect a rural area, the potential to foster individual and community awareness for gender equality is endless. For instance, Frey points out, access to social media allows women specifically to acquire health services and information, education, or even promote a political presence for those women running for office. UN research has indeed demonstrated when women are in decision-making positions in their communities, the gender gap is lessened. UN Women, 2011-2012 Progress of the World’s Women)
As long as the digital divide does exist, however, social media is instrumental for representing those women who do not own computers or have Internet access, enabling them to participate in social media. International organizations that work directly with these women – Amnesty International, Save the Children, Human Rights Watch, Vital Voices, Equality Now, and Soroptimist International are just a few that have access to social media – do broadcast to their international partners and the public to gain allies, volunteers, staff, and board members for funding and support. Social media has shown great strength as an alternative strategy for advocacy and global consciousness, supplying valuable information that may not have been so easily accessible.
Frey remarks on the public interest that has been aroused by online social networks, putting pressure on authority so that they cannot ignore the voices that otherwise may not have been heard without social media.
Even the UN began exploring unchartered waters a couple of years ago with several social media channels through YouTube, Flicker, Twitter, Linked In, Facebook, and more, whereas traditional media forms did not allow for outside interaction with the general public.
How can we contribute to the power of a collective – a collective body that fights injustice and overcomes barriers? How can we harness the power of the almighty tweet? Or the WordPress blog or the Facebook post? If government officials and civilians use technology to participate in global justice, then social media can be an influential means for resolution through cooperation and community.
Of course, social media can be used to perpetuate gender inequality just as much as it challenges it, which is why we need to be much more conscious of how we use social media. Social media networks that promote sexism, or any other kind of “ism” for that matter, are being used negatively but, unfortunately, effectively.
Anyone who has been following the latest news on Facebook pages degrading abused women, can testify to this. But let it not go unmentioned that a petition was sent to Facebook and tweets were sent to companies being advertised on these pages to pull ads in response, demanding that Facebook re-prioritize the material they censor and remove those hateful, sexist pages. After growing criticism, Facebook admitted to ineffective policies on hate speech and vowed more proactive training for staff moderators to prevent future occurences.
What happens when social media is used for social good? It sparked enormous public outcry, for example, for Kim Lee, sharing images of her beaten face, and consequently becoming the first woman in China to be court granted a divorce from her abusive husband. Social media unified a socio-political revolution in Tahrir Square. It exposed, via Tumblr, a gang rape joke directed at a female audience member in a Daniel Tosh comedy show. It unveiled shared experiences of sexism to the Everyday Sexism Project on Twitter with over 54,000 followers. It mapped the location of a sexual harassment incident on a city grid map using the Hollaback! phone app or website.
Frey notes, “Global consciousness existed before social media but social media is a tool for accessing a worldly consciousness.” This promising technology is a bridge between human ingenuity and compassion. All great change begins with an idea and the will to make it happen. Social media is the idea; social media users must have the will.
Is social media going to save the world? With cautious optimism, it is not the only and absolute answer the world needs, but it is an essential new tool as we move into our future.
Progressive social media shatters the patriarchal myth that men and women are too different or separate to be equal, while eliminating the geographic borders between us. For this reason, every connected woman and man can be educated, enlightened, and connected. The UN bears great responsibility to its global citizens who, above all, value human rights. So too, does social media when it is utilized for this higher purpose, which is why social media must always enter the conversation on gender equality strategies inside and outside of the United Nations.
By Danielle Craig
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